Women of Virtue

"I'm not suggesting that we have the power to heal physical conditions with our human fingers. But I do believe there's a healing of the spirit that takes place when we touch others. There's a comfort that can't be found anywhere else but in a touch or a hug. Somehow, God's love and power is shared with others through the simplicity of our physical touch.

--Amy Nappa

When last I left you in my series, "Women of Virtue" I told you about a past relationship I had with Lindi. This is what happened next...

After heading home and waiting for her to call me or whatever she was going to do, my heart felt as if it were beating six times its normal speed. She did return to her apartment to find my oh so eloquent gift sitting at her front door.

She describe the scene as this, "So I get home from dinner with Lesley, (her then roommate) and I find the flower and card. I opened, read it, and almost died!" Now a couple months before this I had asked Lindi to go to the 2005 Chi Alpha Christmas party with me.

She said yes of course, but unbeknownst to me anxiety filled her every being because of the previous year's Christmas party she attended with someone. She said she threw up either on or in front of her date because she was so nervous and worried.

After our date that night, I looked for her only to find her on the phone outside. I would later discover that she was talking to her mom telling her how well the night had gone. She hadn't up chucked! LOL! I took that as a compliment when she told me.

She told me that the night she found the rose and the card. She said she did that when things made her uneasy, or nervous. She came to my house and we had the infamous D.T.R. (defining the relationship) talk. She went on to tell me the reasons she wasn't ready for a relationship and why she believed we shouldn't have one.

Feeling embarrassed, hurt and totally exposed I had no choice at the time but to agree with her. I said lying through my teeth, "Oh yeah, I was thinking the same thing. After thinking about it I don't think we should date."

Oye! She then went on, "But I want us to still be friends! It would kill me if we weren't friends. I don't want this to change that."

It was too late for that because it already had. For months I fought my feelings for her, trying to respect her decision. Although at times it seemed like we were dating.

Over a year later the feelings were still there and I decided to try again...

I am more than grateful for all the virtuous women in my life. I have a friend whom I believe to be an amazing mother, a great wife, and an terrific friend. Renee is always looking after my heart.

Proverbs 31: 30-31 says this, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."

Women you are absolutely amazing. Continue to look to the heart of God for guidance and you will find all things are a little easier.